Making Friends Late In Life
I read a really great article on oprah.com recently about making friends later in life. It’s interesting how it’s so easy to make friends when we’re children, even throughout high school, and college. Though, somehow when we enter adulthood things change. We get married, we have children, we work, and we just don’t have the time anymore. It’s not as easy to pick up the phone, and ring a friend like it was when were kids. I used to talk on the phone all the time when I was younger, and now I have to force myself to call people. When we were younger, it was so easy to say “Hey, want to come over after school?” Fast forward to adulthood, and imagine saying “Hey, want to come over after work?” It’s not so easy. Life gets more complicated as we age. When we were kids, we didn’t have responsibilities, and we weren’t tied down. So, now hanging out involves advanced planning, and money, and blah blah. Welcome to adulthood.
As adults too, we always question people’s motives, so if you randomly ask a new friend to hang out, it almost looks suspicious. ”Why are you asking me to hang out? What do you want from me? Do you need money? Are you hitting on me?” It’s not as cut, and dry as it once was.
Amazingly enough though, some of the best friends I have are the ones I’ve made later in life. If you are lucky enough to make friends when you’re older, sometimes those can be the best of friendships. At almost 30, I feel like my life is pretty much headed in the right direction, and I’ve had enough life experience to recognize the types people that I want to be a part of my life. Though, don’t you just miss the days, when you could call your childhood friend up, and ask their parent’s if they could come out, and play? I know I do.
Tags: Friends, Friendship
